In the weeks that followed I heard several similar statements. In the song I'm Doing MeFantasia sings about the value of self worth, warning against catering to the needs of lovers at the expense of one's self. Shaunie O'Neal (ex-wife of basketball superstar Shaq), in an interview in Jet magazine, talked about the loss (and regaining) of one's self worth.
So why is self worth important? Is it the new buzz word to replace self esteem? Are they the same?
No, they aren't.
Self esteem relates to how much you like yourself, and usually is based on things such as your looks, talents, etc. --- things which can change. Self worth, on the other hand, is about your respect for yourself--what you feel you are worth, how much you value yourself; what you feel you deserve. Truly understanding one's self worth can totally change a person's life. Once we truly understand our own intrinsic value and believe we are worthy of good things, we won't settle for anything less that God's best for our lives. How many bad marriages, poor relationships, unbalanced friendships, workplace mistreatment, etc. would we avoid if we understood our value as a human being?
How do you feel about yourself? What are your positive feelings based on? Are there things which you would like to change? Here's a challenge: take some time to think about your feelings about yourself. Evaluate your self esteem AND your self worth. Make a list of anything and everything that stands as a block to truly valuing yourself. Then, slowly but surely, take steps to attack each and every block. Let 2011 be the year to grasp all that is intended for you. At the end of the day make sure you have self worth.